Eight days ago we were getting out of the car for a quick lunch in Phoenix before our flight home, following a relatively short but very interesting vacation far out in the desert in southeastern Arizona. 

The lunch never happened. Long story short, we are still in Phoenix – I’m at an airbnb and my best friend, my life partner, my traveling mate and – well, the description could continue all night – but the fact is, he’s in the neuro ICU at a local hospital following a serious stroke. 

I am coping with a life changing event far from home.  I miss WordPress and the connection and pleasure it gives me. I don’t know what the future holds. We never do but it is muddier than usual. 

I wish I had wonderful photos of the desert to show you but they are still on the card because we didn’t bring a computer – it was a pretty unplugged vacation. It’s been just me and my smart phone for twelve days – thank god for smart phones! 

 I felt I should check in with you all. I have not visited any blogs in almost two weeks. Priorities.

But I will get back to it,  and I will do my best to try to accept and work with what comes my way, in each moment. Please, no pity. Maybe a little advice or support or kindness. We all know the world needs more kindness! 

Enough. Time to get back to the hospital and see what’s up. 


  1. Wow, I am sorry to hear your news. Have you ever read Pema Chodrun’s When Things Fall Apart? It might not be time yet, but might be beneficial. Holding you and your partner in the Light.

  2. Oh Lynn, I’m sorry that you’re having to deal with this so far from home, and I hope and pray that your partner gets well soon. My thoughts are with you both. Take good care of yourselves and thank you for sharing what’s going on with you. Hugs and blessings xxx

  3. I wish I had something concrete to offer but I will hold you and your partner in my thoughts. The beautiful photo you shared speaks of hope~may it sustain you as you go through this difficult journey. Remember that your friends here are with you.

  4. I don’t have adequate words, but wishing both your partner and you the best possible outcome in this scary time. It feels odd to ‘like’ a post with such a serious message. Sending vibes of peace and tranquility and healing for the days ahead. Best, Babsje

  5. What an awful thing to happen! But the fact is none of us know just what life is going to throw at us tomorrow… ! Your partner is in the best place, getting the best possible treatment and when treatment is prompt recovery prospects are greatly improved. I really wish the best possible outcome for you both. With a fighting spirit and unwavering determination recovery, although a lengthy process, can be quite amazing… ! Don’t worry about your blog, we’ll all still be here when you’re able to get back to it. Thinking of you…

  6. I can well imagine that being far from home and all things familiar is bound to make dealing with this situation on so many levels much more difficult Lynn , initial excellent ICU treatment is the key from my experience.
    As a result of coming across your statement – “Throughout my career, I have learned how resilient the human spirit can be in rising above huge challenges.”- I’m wishing heaps of that resilience for you both right now .
    Finding the very kind of positivity , patience and strength needed to overcome obstacles in these early days of what hopefully will be a speedy recovery may well be a challenge at times .Support from friends is paramount Lynn – and yes – thank heavens for Smartphones, the ability to connect in various ways at the moment can only be a good thing . Keep in touch and take care of you too xx Poppy

  7. Oh no. Ive only experience of one friend who had a big stroke and despite loosing sight, speech and movement at the time, he went on to make a full recovery from the stroke. However, you have to be realistic, and I know that’s not always the case – I sincerely hope it will be in your case. I can’t imagine going through this while not being at home and I truly feel for you. I hope you can both get home as soon as it’s safe to travel and I hope your insurance will help. If your insurance doesn’t cover it, I would think this is the perfect scenario for a crowd funding situation as I know we would all like to help you in any way we can. Good luck and keep us posted if you can.

  8. No, no pity, past experience tells me you’re absolutely right in asking that. Fact is, I greatly admire you for having the mental wherewithal and courage to put out this post at all. Its a cliché I suppose, but the only way is forward, and I urge you to take very good care of yourself – as well as looking after him. You’re both in my thoughts. Adrian

  9. I’m so sorry I didn’t see this post until now. You definitely have my best wishes and support, Lynn. I hope the warmth from all your blogging friends helps a little. Take care. I’ll be thinking about you.

  10. It seems my replys dont go through. All the support in the universe to a very unique individual! We are all with you-call any time….

  11. The first blessing is that you were in Phoenix, and not still in the desert. My hope is that more blessings have come your way as you live through this. One of my dearest friends had a stroke about three years ago, and while I understand that everyone’s recovery is different, she has been able to progress very well. She’s driving again, walking without a cane, and presently is off on a cruise.

    Whatever happens, I’ll be thinking of you, and wishing both of you the very best. And thank you for letting us know.

  12. So sorry to hear of your partner’s stroke and hope he will recover fully soon. May the support of all the people who have left comments here help both of you get through this terrible misfortune.

  13. I’m sorry I’ve been so long in getting around to your post, and even more sorry to read its contents. m I hope that by now you have positive news. My thoughts and best wishes are with you.

  14. Hope things are getting better for you soon. Greetings from Germany – I just discovered your blog and I’m deeply impressed by your very special, personal photos.
    All the best to you

  15. Sending hugs to you. I am humbled by how precarious life is and how much we need to compensate for changes in our lives as we age. Probably time to become friends with all the hospital personnel. Blessings to you, Lynn.

  16. Hi Lynn,
    I’m so sorry it’s taken me a while to find this post. When you said you were in the ICU with Joe I knew I must have missed something. As you know I’ve been in Fuerteventura without an Internet connection and whilst that has been a wonderful break, you realise just how much you can miss and when a friend is in need of some comfort and support, to have missed the opportunity to provide just a few words, a hug across the ether and to say that one’s thoughts are with you is quite upsetting.
    I hope that Joe is on the road to recovery. I know that the road can be long and hard but with the right support which I know you will provide and access to a good rehab facility, huge strides can be made.
    I’m happy that you were able to dip into WordPress, to connect with this amazing community at such a difficult time and to take some comfort from being able to look at some posts. I’m happy that you were able to enjoy my WordPress birthday entry.
    My thought are with you and Joe Lynn. Take care and keep in touch..
    My very best regards
    Adrian x ((Lynn))

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